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The other day I was listening to the news while driving my kids to the doctor’s office.  Let’s not forget to mention that I was spiking a fever of over 101 and had not had a full night sleep in nearly a week and I had two sick kids in the car. I thought I was hallucinating what I was hearing until later that night I saw the same coverage. 

A school district in Oakland, California has just launched its first teaching curriculum of  “gender diversity” as early as Kindergarten.  I went online and reviewed the curriculum.  It was a bit puzzling the comparison of the animal kingdom (fish and reptiles) they used to make the point about “gender diversity”; none of it made sense to me.  The reason those species change gender and/or transgender  is to keep the species in existence.  I don’t see how teaching that concept really reinforces pro-tolerance and ” human gender diversity”.  That is like comparing apples to oranges.   The reason people are gay or transgender has nothing to do with saving a species.  

However, this segment is not about pro or against gender diversity; this is about our schools doing the jobs of what should be done at home and since it is not being done at home (by a very small minority),they are taking on the responsibility.  The problem is that not only are they doing a poor job at taking on the job, they are losing sight that the Chinese are passing us by in the science and math department.  So while they are going to space and forming new ground breaking patents we will be well versed in the ill-informed information on hermaphrodite amphibians.  

 Is spending the VERY limited resources we have on education, teaching “gender diversity” in the  early elementary years really going to solve our problem of bullying, lack of tolerance and hate?  The sad thing is we will never be able to eradicate that from the human race.  Is this in the early classroom really going to set up our kids for success in competing with the dog eat dog socio-economic world? 

As you know I am not a fan of the Chinese government, they are not the beacon of good will and humanity towards mankind, but the one thing they understand is that knowledge and discipline is power. We have such a cutting  edge on true balance of both discipline with good boundaries and good education, but we fail to no longer combine them and that is to our losing race to countries like China.

Kids no longer have a healthy respect and sovereign fear of their educators.  Not because the educators have grown soft, but the educators are govern by out of touch legislation and administration that no longer allow the educator to hold true and meaningful consequences. 

I have several friends that teach, and the number one complaint they all have is that they have a few in the class that are just rotten kids that make educating challenging and downright impossible. The good kids suffer, the bad kids win in ruling the classroom.   The administration does not back them to get those few bad apples out of the mix, hold those parents responsible and get on with teaching the core subjects.  Instead they throw a new “teaching curriculum” at them to try to intercept the ill-behavior of a few.

I will be teaching my children “gender diversity” when it is appropriate and I will be using a realistic approach instead of felt boards filled with hermaphrodite amphibians and reptiles to pled my case.   I know that 99.9% of my friends and circle of influence will be doing the same.  Early elementary years is not the place or forum.  I expect my kids to be taught reading, writing, and arithmetic and be in a setting that reinforces respect for authority figures. 

It appears my choice to be sending my kids to Catholic school (even if it means I have to work two jobs to do it) will be in the cards for our family and we are not even Catholic.   It is known the Catholic school system knows how to produce competing test scores, reinforce respect and moral code, and demand parent involvement on a budget grossly less than what the public schools require.

Come on America, let’s get involved on the future of our kid’s education and support the educators do what they went to school to do; teach these kids how to achieve academic greatness! Especially since we are paying for it greatly in both tax dollars and competing with the rest of the world for economic security.

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I  have fundamentals in education (play-based education/Montessori) that tend to somewhat line up with a whole other species of motherhood I can’t relate with – The Granola Mom. 

 I would say that I am a  practical and moderately conservative person in most areas; fiscally, morally, within my scope of  child rearing, and attire and home decor ( I tend to stay true to the classics and not be trendy).  I let my sense of humor and sarcasm take lead in most things and try not to be too ridgid.

I can find my same species of motherhood in this arena, but for some reason the only granola that I can stomach is the one I eat for breakfast.  I try to keep an open mind when I hear their philosophies and ideas (I have a few close friends that fall in this category), but with no avail, I just don’t get it.   This is the inspiration of Top Ten Tuesdays and is not meaning to bring offence to anyone. It is just my personal satire and opinion and if you don’t like what I am saying, then don’t read it.  🙂

10.  The Family Bed: So not my cup of tea.  I don’t mind the occasional snuggle time, but I like my peaceful sleep AND my adult extra curricular time without a foot in my back.

9.  Positive Time Outs:  What is that?  A time out should be anything but positive.  Sit your butt down, think about how you just hit your sister over the head with a toy and be lucky that all you are getting is a time out!

8.  Never Say No to Your Child, Use Positive Reinforcements:  Really, that is going to set them up for success for adulthood? I have heard NO more times than I would like. “NO, you don’t make enough money to buy the car of your dreams”.  “No, you can’t drive above the speed limit, and here is your $150 ticket.”   “NO, you did not get the promotion.”  “NO, he does not want to date you anymore.”

 7.  Never Letting Your Kids Cry It Out/Self Sooth: I have a friend that has not slept in four-year because of this theory of creating abandonment issues if they let them cry it out.  I see how that is working out for the kids and her; she is a zombie and the kids have anxiety issues.  I have two kids that sleep through the night and can entertain themselves well.  Trust me, it is not that I am just “lucky”.  I had to pay the price of a few hard nights and days getting to that point.  NO ONE LIKES TO HEAR THEIR KIDS CRY, but it is my goal to prepare them to be independent and thriving adults and teaching them self soothing skills are the first steps.

6. Mobi Wraps or Slings for Carrying Your Infant: I could never use a Mobi wrap, even though I think they are really cool.  I know I would have dropped my kids on their heads multiple times.  Now, I do think when the kid is ready for High School it is time to get them out of the sling and buy them a car. Trust me, I have seen that.

5. Breastfeeding with No Discretion:  Just whipping it out in public regardless of the setting just because it is your God-given right to do so is disturbing to me.  I am a HUGE advocate of breastfeeding, but let us use a little discretion please! We are not at Marty Gras and you will not get any beads thrown your way for doing so.  Keep second base a novelty!

4. Planting Your Placenta Under A Tree:  Believe it or not I know three people who have done this.   I get the whole primitive idea of this, but the last I checked we have babies in the hospital, we have doctor’s for fertility issues and the idea of asking your doctor to place your placenta in a plastic bucket and then carrying it out of the hospital along with your new bundle of joy is beyond bazaar to me.   I have no idea what they did with my placentas and I would like to keep it that way.  It was bad enough to have the hubs try to photograph my uterus as the doctor was sewing it up.  There are just part of my insides that just needs to stay between it and the medical professionals.

3.  Nine Page Birth Plans:  This one kills me.  As you all know from my postings, The Start of Soapbox Sundays, you know where I stand on this.  I once heard a Labor and Delivery RN say,  “When someone comes in with a nine page birth plan, that usually means they will get a one-way ticket to the OR for an emergency C-section. That is just how the karma seems to work. It is child-birth,  not a trying to achieve a business plan!” 

2.  Breast feeding a Toddler:   I had a rule that when the kids got teeth  the bar was closed and then I pumped until they were close to 12 months old.  Watching  a mother lift up her shirt for a child that walked up to the ‘bar’ and asked for a drink is very disturbing to me.  I have made an observation that it seems more boys are breast-fed later than girls.   I remember when I was in the dating pool, there was a saying, “Chici Boy” which in Spanish essentially means, still on the boob.  Now I get where that saying originated.

1. Not Vaccinating Your Kids:  As we all know Dr. Wakefield manipulated data to prove his theory that certain vaccinations caused autism.  Believe it or not, even with that evidence coming out there are still many that will not vaccinate their kids and illnesses that were once eradicated are alive and well.  Here is the question I asked myself when making that decision to vaccinate before the findings of the information was considered a fraud.  Would I rather risk a chance of autism or a chance of death? To me the answer was quite obvious.

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A Highway Patrol Officer receives a call that a teenage boy is standing on a freeway ramp holding a sign. At the scene, it reads, “I skipped school today and my mom told me this will be my future.”

When questioned, he had been there for 45 minutes. Then the teen points across the street to his mother’s parked car. As they approach the car he states, “I can’t allow your son to do this, you both please be on your way.”

As he walks away he pauses, “Ma’am, off the record that was genius! May I keep the sign?” It now hangs in a California Highway Patrol kiosk office somewhere in northern California.

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  Last Sunday night a show hit the air ways of America via TLC called “Sister Wives”.  The trailers struck my interest long before airing since I have  a huge fascination with polygamy. Do not misunderstand my fascination for anything other than I am a theology major and religion in general fascinates me. I have read almost anything out there regarding the FLDS and am an avid fan of “Big Love”.  Also the thought of having the support and help that “sister wives” bring sounds like a dream, if I could only come to terms of sharing my husband, which I could never do.   

The show embraces the reality of the “life style” of this family of four wives and sixteen children.  They are self-supporting and have quite the set up of how they run the daily goings on of the family.  I did some digging and there are many families that are in the same exact set up as these folks.  They are not living on compounds, not abusing their children, they are not raping the welfare system, and their children are raised with a huge work ethic, a sence of love and security which makes them able to be kind and loving to the outside world. They are just good, hard-working Americans that believe in plural marriage as one of the major foundations of their faith.  Not that I agree with it, but it is their faith. They are not impacting anyone but themselves.  

The thing is polygamy is illegal and this family has now found themselves under investigation and may be prosecuted at a felony level.  If this happens this family will be torn apart, thrown in prison,  the kids will be shipped off to an already over crowded and poor functioning foster care system and no one really wins.  The kids lose their family, they are no longer paying their share of taxes, and the tax payers are now picking up the dime to now support all twenty-one  people who were not really doing anything but be strange and “immoral” to many Americans that can’t even organize their own life.  Essentially these twenty-one lives are now a drain on society and we put them there by legislation that is none of our business.  

If Americans would take that energy of fighting for these kinds of legislations and put it towards regulating the welfare system, fighting to keep manufacturing here within the states, and hold the heads of education accountable, maybe we would have people willing to really go to work and be responsible for themselves.  We would have jobs and would not depend on nor worry about other countries.  Finally, we would have well-educated kids. 

In researching this, I found out that the Libertarian Party is trying to decriminalize polygamy in the same manner they are fighting for same-sex marriages. They believe that government should not regulate marriages.   That made me think long and hard about my fundamental beliefs and I have to say I concur.  The older I become, the more of a Libertarian I am developing into.  I asked myself  the question, “Do the choices of the polygamist or same-sex partners impact me in any way?”  No, as long as they are not a drain on society or intentionally hurting someone, it is none of my business on the choices they make for themselves.  Those choices that they make are between them and their maker.  There are plenty of heterosexual single marriages that do more damage to the welfare system, their children, themselves and others to argue this point for polygamists and gays. 

Yes, both cross many “moral” belief systems but it is not our right nor place to police that.  We are not to judge or throw stones at other’s choices as long as they are not hurting others in any physical or financial way.  I feel that we do things very backwards in this country and look at the condition we are in! On one hand we want separation of church and state, yet on the other hand we want the state to rule with a church perspective and yet not allow anyone to be accountable for themselves and their choices. 

Some would think I am contradicting myself when it comes to me saying I don’t want a lot of government imput, yet I feel it is the government’s responsibility to hold those on welfare accountable and to make home birth’s illegal (I will address home births in a later post).  

I have huge issue with people intentionally having kids on welfare or even being on welfare when they are deemed able to get out and work and function on a normal cognitive and physical level.  I feel that if the parties that choose to be on welfare willing place themselves as wards of the state and the state should have the right to regulated funds and choices they make since it costs the tax payers.  I feel that if you have a kid on welfare you must be on birth control in order to get the funds.  Also, welfare is just a bridge to a better life, not a way of life for years and years.  There should be a max and when it is done and you face the consequences of taking responsiblity for yourself and your family. If you can’t , you lose them and the state is not going to bail you out; homelessness and losing your kids is your rock bottom.   The thought to loss to most motivates and kicks people into gear more than anything. Again, I stress these scenarios are for those that are deemed able to truly take care of themselves. 

My grandmother, a woman who survived the Great Depression, always told me that the biggest help I could find is at the end of my arms.  She had no hand outs, she had to work at a very young age to contribute to her neighbors and her family so they would not starve and guess what, she died a very wealthy woman. She knew what it took to survive and work hard and applied that her whole life and it passed down onto three generations (my kids being the third).   

The bottom line is, if you are not putting anyone innocent at risk, you are not physically causing harm to others or their resources it is none of our business.  Let the gays marry, leave the polygamists alone and take care of and be accountable of yourself and those within your four walls.

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